LAGRANGE — In some ways, Peggy Oskins said, her son Mark was still a big kid.
One of his favorite pastimes with his children, 10-year-old Serena and 9-year-old Cameron, was to play the video game “Guitar Hero.” He had huge collections of Matchbox cars and baseball cards. He was a devoted fantasy football player. He loved his mom’s cooking, especially comfort food like her cabbage rolls.
Mark Oskins, 33, died early Sunday morning in a single-car accident in the 400 block of West Avenue in Elyria.
David Bogner Family Funeral Home is handling arrangements. Calling hours are expected to be Thursday evening, with the funeral service Friday morning.
Members of the Oskins family spent Monday evening downloading Mark’s favorite songs from his phone and will put them on an iPod to play at the funeral home.
“No funeral music,” Peggy insisted. Instead, it will be her son’s eclectic taste from the punkabilly of the Rev. Horton Heat to Rob Zombie’s heavy metal.
Mark Oskins grew up in Elyria, a “typical bullheaded Taurus,” his mother joked. He loved mechanical things, rehabbing vintage bicycles, a hobby he used to fix up bikes for his kids. He worked for Ridge Tool as a CNC operator for close to 15 years, starting there shortly after his graduation from Elyria West High School in 1995.
He kept several friends from childhood, his mom said. Mark had a 1961 Cadillac that he planned on restoring and showing in car shows.
Instead, Peggy said, Mark’s friends and the other men in the family will rebuild it with and for Cameron.
“I didn’t know how many friends he had until I went onto his Facebook page (Sunday),” Peggy said. “So many friends, and they’ve been so kind.”
Mark and his wife, Amy, had dated in high school and went to senior prom together. But they went their separate ways after high school. Ten years later, they met and fell in love again.
“He was very funny, very caring and a great dad,” she said. Serena and Cameron were from his first marriage, which had ended a few years before.
The two began spending time together. Family dinners were their favorite time, followed by bike rides in the summer or movies in cooler weather.
“His laugh always made me smile,” Amy said. “We went to our 15-year reunion a few months ago and he was the character of the party.”
Mark and Amy married in 2006. Their wedding day ended up being the same day the family had to go to court for the sentencing of Paul Hashman, the neighbor of the Oskins who had shot Darrell Oskins, Mark’s dad, six times in a 2004 incident. Darrell ended up spending more than 100 days in intensive care, Peggy said, and about seven months in the hospital. Hashman died in prison in 2009 at age 87.
“That was a surreal day,” Peggy said. “We had a beautiful beach ceremony at Lakeview Park in the morning and went straight from there to the sentencing.”
The family moved to LaGrange after the shooting.
Peggy said she is drawing on the same strength and faith she used to get through Darrell’s shooting to help deal with the loss of her son.
“I got through that through the grace of God,” Peggy said. “I’m counting on that to get me through this.”
One bit of grace, she said, was that Amy was scheduled to work a paramedic shift Saturday night and would have been on call when the crash happened. Instead she had called off when her son Timothy wasn’t feeling well, Peggy said.
“I can’t imagine what that would have been like for her,” Peggy said.
Elyria police are still investigating the crash.
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